"Nothing But Possibilities" is a phrase that has two interpretations. First, hope: The world holds endless possibilities and opportunities for everyone. Second, sobering: Those opportunities will remain only possibilities if I don't go after them. Cheesy? Maybe, but don't knock my source of inspiration... Speaking of inspiration, my blog does not presume to be such a source, but instead, a repository of notes, mutterings and partially coherent thoughts which I happen to log from time to time.
Thursday, May 04, 2006
Look Out For Internet Scam Artists!!!
This last week, I had an interesting email exchange with another potential buyers that I thought I would share with you all. This guy was so slick I almost fell for it! :-)
Original Email:
Name: Mr john
E-mail Address: ljsnoop2@yahoo.co.uk
Phone Number: 2348052624951
Best Time to Contact: Afternoon
Message:Attn,your vehicle meets with the specifications of a client werepresent,but with a bid of $13,000 so if that is agreeable by you thennotify meif there is any mechanical defaults whatsoever,so that we cantransact.thanks
My Reply:
Mr. John,
The Sonata is still for sale. There are no mechanical problems with the car, it is very clean and it has been very well maintained. We are asking $13,500 at this point, but are willing to consider other offers. We live in Silverdale, WA. Would you like to see the car? Please reply or give me a call at (360) 447-0799.
Tyler
His Reply:
Attn ,
Thanks for the email, I have forwarded your vehicle information to my client and after evaluation and due to time constraint on the fact that we are running short of time , i am delighted to tell you that my client has commended your vehicle and he has instructed me to carry on with this transaction, he also instructed me to inform you that payment will get to you in a cashier check of $25,500, which is a refund payment of a cancelled order earlier made by my client. Due to company policy this check has to be made out in this amount to you, because company policy only allows a refund payment on one cashier cheque. So you are required to deduct the cost of your vehicle $13,500 when payment gets to you and refund balance $12,000 to the shipper for him to be able to offset shipping & tax charges, and other cosmetic repair costs. After payment has reached you and balance sent to shipper, the shipper's agent will come for inspection, pick up (of vehicle & signing of title
papers), make some cosmetic touches and drive to a prepaid shipper to be shipped to my customer. Confirm this and forward your Names, Address and Phone number for payment to be made to you as soon as possible. Your honesty, understanding and co-operation will be highly appreciated. Have a wonderful day.
Best regards
My Reply:
I have forwarded your email to the FBI Internet Fraud Division. Have fun with them!
His Reply:
Mr i think you are alright,this is a business an why do you hav to bring in FBI SO YOU THINK AM A SCAMMER,ANYWAY IS NOT YOUR FAULT IT'IS ME WHO SHOW INTEREST IN BUYING YOUR CAR OK.IF YOU STILL WANT TO SELL YOU CAN CONTACT ME.BYE
I wanted to write back to him with this email: "Oh, yeah, and your English sucks!" but my wife wouldn't let me because it was too rude. She's probably right. Anyway, be careful out there, everyone is looking to rip you off!
String Fellow Hawk
Saturday, April 29, 2006
United 93
And chaos it was...the movie seems to capture that very well. There are no cheesy lines, stupid stunts or other Hollywoodisms and maybe that is one of the reasons it feels so true-to-life. The producers and director were meticulous in their efforts to base as much of the movie as possible on the known facts. Of course, a lot of the details of what actually took place on the airplane will always be unknown, but the way that they filled in the holes in the story seems to be a likely possibility for how the events might have played out. There is as little interpretation of the events as possible, leaving just a stand-alone and very powerful story. The storytelling relies on a lot of jerky, hand-held camera shots that make you feel how frantic and desperate the situation must have been. There is some graphic violence that is as disturbing as I have ever seen, not only because it is so brutal, but because it really happened!
It is emotionally chilling and gut-wrenching. It was so hard to watch some parts and yet it felt so important to me to watch those very parts. It allowed me to somehow, some way feel a slight hint of what these average and heroic everyday people went through and felt when they stared horrendous evil in the face. They were some of the first Americans to fight on the front lines of the war on terrorism and they deserve tremendous honor and respect.
I was deeply moved and affected by the whole experience as evidenced by my tears (for the record, my wife shed more than me...). Afterward, I felt more aware of my mortality and more aware of the tremendous courage and selflessness of which human-beings are capable.
Tiptoe Through the You-Know-Whats
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Wanna buy a car?

Dear blogging family members,
I like Mark's idea of having a network of family blogs. I started this blog over a year ago but I didn't really tell anyone but Dana about it. I'm not sure why, but I just didn't feel like sharing it with many people. Mark pointed out to me that it is an obvious contradiction to create a blog that you don't want anyone else to see. I am aware of that and I can't really explain my feeling, but the beauty is, I don't have to...this is my blog and I make the rules! The older I get, the more I realize that I am a man of many internal contradictions, some of which I am only slightly conscious. I'm working on myself. The important part is, I am sharing it now with anyone who cares. (is there anyone?)
Anyway, I thought I would try a little experiment on this blog and solicit financial advice from my financially-savvy family members. Here is our family (WA Fosters) situation on which I need input:
We want badly to buy a house this year, but they ain't going cheap as I'm sure you all know. We own two cars and on both we are still making payments :-( I've done the math and in order to afford a house that we can be happy with, we can only afford to make payments on 1 car. I bought a bike and will be able to ride to work 3-4 times a week so that Dana and the baby will not be stranded at home.
Some info about our current automobiles:
2000 Honda Civic (Buster B)
- payment: reasonable
- remaining payments: a little more than 2 years
- quality: decent and reliable, but higher mileage
- worth: just a little bit more than we owe
- payment: almost twice the payment on the Honda
- remaining payments: a little more than 4 years
- quality: very nice car, very reliable, low mileage
- worth: $2000 - $3000 less than we owe (i.e. we are upside-down)
Our current plan is to sell the Sonata, eat the amount that we are upside-down and try to pay off the Honda in about a year and a half. At that point we could afford to buy another car and remain with one car payment. I like this plan because it involves up-front sacrifice (getting by with one car) on our part to achieve better financial positioning later on which seems to ring true to me. Unfortunately, we have been advertising the car for 3+ weeks and have had almost no responses. I'm sure we would get more responses if we dropped the price lower, but we are already asking $2100 less than we owe. We are not sure how much lower we are willing to go...
Any ideas about what we should do? We have a few that we are mulling over, but I would be interested to hear if any of you have any brilliant ideas.
Super Humans
She said when she was 11 years old she hated the feeling of being left out of athletics and other things because of her disability. She remembers one day she saw a woman with a prosthetic leg run by without any problems and it changed her life.
The most interesting part of the show came when she was talking about how often she has wondered what her life would be like if she had been born with two legs. She said she doesn't think she would trade her life now because of how her life has been colored and shaped by a "disability."
I know it sounds like just a cheesy, feel-good show, and I guess it was, but I felt truly inspired. I like to think that I really know something about how harsh and cruel life can be, but the reality is that while my life does provide me with the occasional challenge or two, I know very little about pushing myself to the edge of my ability and crying out in anguish when things go horribly wrong. I hardly know anything about the real pain and agony (physical and other) that so many people endure constantly, and yet so many of them rise above. I take so much for granted and spend so much time feeling sorry for myself, when I should just go out there, quit making excuses for myself and kick some serious butt like this girl does!
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Beautiful Washington

This is a picture of my lovely wife looking out over the beautiful Washington state coastline at sunset. The picture was taken on our "babymoon" to the coast. The concept was something she had heard about, but then I surprised her with the trip. As you can see from her beautiful belly, she has less than a month to go.
The title of this picture is "The horizon of possibilities."
My brother recently started his own blog. Here is the link:
Catching Your Breath
Check it out. He is more poetic than me so I'm sure you will enjoy his blog!
'Til later....
Saturday, March 04, 2006
Moved to WA!!
Oh, wait, there aren't any of you...oh well it is just a matter of time.
We just moved to Western Washington about a month ago and after being in a hotel for over 3 weeks, we are finally moved into an apartment. Hopefully it won't be too long until we are moving into a house of our own. This move came up kind of suddenly, but my wife and I both felt like it was the right thing to do. We had only lived in NY for a little over a year so this is a big deal to us.
Remember that baby I told you about that my wife is pregnant with. Well, HE is due in just over 2 months now so we are getting really excited. My wife is at her parents house having a baby shower right now, raking in free stuff. Showers are a beautiful concept.
I can't wait to meet my son. Both of us are having a hard time comprehending how our lives will be changing very soon. I hope I'm a great father!
Wednesday, September 07, 2005
Haven't written in a while...sorry.
It is amazing how your consciousness and awareness of yourself and the world around you is continually evolving and changing and morphing and yet on a day to day basis, you don't really notice any change. You feel like you are the same old boring person you have always been. I can see how my sense of self and life has transformed slightly just in the last six months.
I guess my theory is that real internal changes inside myself, whether intended or unintended, never occur rapidly...they can't. I do have defining moments occasionally, but those are like mileposts along the road to becoming a different (and hopefully better) person.
I feel like I want to be more continuously cognizant of my personal progression into that "hopefully better person." It seems like most of the time, I just bounce through my day, from compulsion to compulsion, without much thought about how day like that turn into weeks and years and decades of very little direction and actual progress.
Like I have said before in this blog, one of my most treasured personal convictions is that the future holds endless and eternal and beautiful possibilities for myself and everyone else in the world, but they will remain nothing but UNCLAIMED possiblities and dreams if we let them slip by. How many have I already lost? That stinks that my laziness causes so much potential to be lost.
It is up to me to claim these unimaginable opportunities.
Speaking of potential...
My wife and I just found out 6 days ago that she is pregnant! We are so, so happy. We had those nagging worries that we would have trouble, like any couple that has never had kids. But let's just say that it didn't take long once she went off the birth control. We have been planning this ever since we got married, but the reality of it all for me is still sinking in. The thought that we have created a body for another spiritual person who will independently maneuver his/her way though this crazy world of ours is staggering. I want to give him/her the greatest possibilities and opportunities I can.
Sunday, March 06, 2005
Life Makes More Sense In Reverse
I love my wife and almost every day that we are married, she does something or says something that makes me realize how right it was for me to marry her...how easy a decision it was for me to propose to her after only knowing her for a month. She is a person that makes me want to be better than I am. I am a lucky man.
I guess the point of this post is this: almost all of my experiences for the last six years led me eventually to the best decision I've ever made (i.e. my wife), even though along the road sometimes, it was really hard for me to see the purpose of a lot of my decisions and frustrations. Much of that time, I felt like I was spinning my wheels and I worried that I was headed in the wrong direction or at least not in the right direction. A lot of the time, my faith waivered as to whether or not my life would go where I wanted it to go. I can't really blame myself for feeling that at the time, but I can say now that my past makes a lot more sense to me, now that I see where it led me. I guess it is the wisdom and courage that I aquired along the way that made that understanding possible.
Good Night!
Tuesday, March 01, 2005
Recently Married And Learning Fast
We had a larger-than-usual tiff yesterday that had been building for a few days. For a while, we seemed hopelessly at odds. The annoying part was that most of the discord from both of us didn't actually come from the original disagreement, but from the fact that we were frustrated with each other about it. She might disagree with that analysis, but that is how I felt. Amazingly, we both eventually realized that we really didn't want to be mad at each other at about the same time and that made resolving the problem rather easy. And boy did we resolve it! :-)
The thing that stunned me about myself as our "fight" was progressing is that I wasn't really trying to resolve our negative feelings for each other. Instead, I was trying to defend to myself and to my wife that my position on the issue at hand was logical and more or less correct. How stupid is that! I wasn't being honest with myself about the conflict. Instead, I was just trying to vindicate the feelings that I had, so that I could maintain a lie to myself about my true intentions.
Honesty with oneself is so elusive but so liberating. I'm realizing that a majority of my actions and thoughts throughout the day are either totally or partially "dishonest" because they attempt to justify and rationalize instead of to understand, clarify and correct.
If you haven't already, read "The Bonds That Make Us Free" by Terry Warner. Those ideas that I just expressed are his. I want my life's intentions to be transparent to others as well as to myself.
So the point of this post is that, marriage is helping me to understand what true honesty to myself and others is all about. I thought I understood that before, but as I analyze my actions, I see that I can't always trust myself to tell the truth to myself. I think that realization will prove to be an important one for me personally and for our marriage.
What "Nothing But Possibilites" Means To Me
Over the last year, I have written this poem. I know it is not a literary masterpiece, but I have been amazed at how much a simple little poem has affected me and taught me about myself. I have never really shown it to anyone before (not even my new wife of 2 months). It is about my struggle over the past few years of my life to be my best self and my gut-feeling that the future holds great things for all of us, realizing that greatness depends entirely on who we become in our heart of hearts.
Nothing But Possibilities
It's a weight that won't retire
It blisters your heart like a fire
Conquering will and desire
It itches, it scrapes and it burns
How could you let it invade you?
How could you let it control you?
How could you let it defeat you?
Something so evil, so wrong, so pathetic
You choose the tracks you tread
You say the things you've said
You feed the thoughts you've fed
So much responsibility
You chose to face the sun
You did the things you've done
Because you're the only one
Nothing but possibilities
Inside your weak mind again
Attacking you from within
But promptings not to give in
To fight off the enemy of your soul
Who will win this duel for your allegiance and obedience?
Who will conquer you deepest passions?
How will the fight end this time?
The foe waits at the edge of the battlefield for his moment
Coming to terms with the past
Calling for help, holding fast
Hoping your patience and strength will last
So much responsibility
Trusting your future is bright
Sensing an end to your plight
Knowing that God's path is right
Nothing but endless possibilities
Your fences alone will not hold
They'll crumble, defenses will fold
Your enemy's undyingly bold
You must build high walls of brick and stone
What is it that you protect from his hatred?
Why is it you fight off his onslaught?
How will you repel his deceipt and anger?
Your armor must be your God
In battle for life now you meet
Victory as yet incomplete
But there it awaits at your feet
So much responsibility
Only you can fight off his blows
With the strength that heaven bestows
You know what no one else knows
Nothing but endless, eternal possibilities
See what's up on the road ahead
Get out of your warm and comfortable bed
Quit shaking , conquer instead
It's now or never, claim your happiness
Who else can feel what you feel?
Who else can see what you see?
Who else can know what you know?
You are an extraordinary person
It's time now you seized your fate
It's time now before it's too late
Because only you will make you great
So much responsibility
Please do not delay your task
You need not fear your past
Lose your costume and your mask
Nothing but endless, eternal, never-ending possibilities
Like I said above, I know it is not a polished piece of poetry, but it represents a powerful personal experience and feeling for me and I'm glad I shared it with you. Thank you for reading it and appreciating it.